Friends are important.
“الرفيق قبل الطريق”
You must look for a friend before starting a way.
The way is the way of life. We are all going on a way. It is either a good way, or a bad way. The good way is walked with a good friend. Whose friend is bad will lead him to the bad way. And the bad way will destroy him in this world and will make it even worse in Akhirah.Oftentimes, children and brothers ask for advice.
The best advice is to be with good people. When you are with good people, as it is said in Hadith of our Holy Prophet ṣallá Llāhu ‘alayhi wa-sallam, a good person is like a shop that sells perfume. If you enter it, you benefit from nice fragrance even if you don’t buy anything. Beautiful fragrance gives beauty to people. It gives comfort and goodness. A bad friend is like blacksmith shop. Blacksmith shop is necessary, of course. But if you enter it, you will be either bothered by the smell, or a spark may burn you. Our Holy Prophet ṣallá Llāhu ‘alayhi wa- sallam has given this example and tells to be on the good way, with good people in good places.Saying “This is my closest friend” and this and that; the worst badness comes from trusting him and thinking you are safe. It is the biggest stupidity and badness to yourself.
Therefore, you must be cautious with your friend. If he makes a mistake, you must ask “What are you doing, my friend? What is it? Why are doing so? Does it have any wisdom? Are you doing it for your ego?” At least, you should correct your friend and not warp the way. You should not go out of the way.The conditions we see now, the biggest badness everywhere is from friends.
One sees the other doing something and wants to imitate him. “Is it right? My father, mother and relatives would not understand it. Masha’Allah my friend is very clever and smart. What my father and mother say is outdated, they don’t understand anything. This guy understands. I must be like him and go with him.” While doing so, they’ve spoilt the condition of the world and everywhere in the country.
May Allah جل جلاله give them mind and understanding. May they not leave the right way insha’Allah.
Wa min Allah at-Tawfiq. Al-Fatiha.
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Mawlana Sheikh Muhammad Adil ar-Rabbani
22 December 2024/ 21 Jumada al-Thani 1446
Fajr Prayer, Akbaba Dergah
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