Mending Ties on ‘Īd

Bismi Llāhi r-Raḥmāni r-Raḥīm

“إِنَّمَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ إِخْوَةٌ فَأَصْلِحُوا بَيْنَ أَخَوَيْكُمْ ۚ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُرْحَمُونَ“

(Qur’ān 49:10)

“Innama l-mu’minūna ikhwa fa-‘aslihu bayna akhawaykum wa t-Taqu Allaha La’allakum Turhamoon”

“The believers are but brothers, so make settlement between your brothers. And fear Allah that you may receive mercy.” Ṣadaqa Llāhu l-‘Aẓīm.

Allāh ‘Azza wa-Jalla says. On the occasion of ‘Īd – today is the second day of ‘Īd. Today is the second day of the Sugar Feast, the Feast of Ramaḍān, the Feast of Fasting.

The things to do in ‘Īd are things that are acceptable in the sight of Allāh ﷻ. One of them is visiting relatives. It is important. Maintaining ties of kinship with relatives is for the benefit of the Muslim. It is a great benefit. Those who do not do it, meaning those who are in resentment with their relatives, have cut off ties of kinship. It is a sin upon him. It is not not makrūh or so, it is a sin. A person who knowingly resents, does not go to their relatives and does not talk to them – of course, there are some conditions. If he has left the religion, then there is no need for that. But if he is a Muslim, then this ‘Īd is a means for reconciliation; for Muslims to reconcile with each other especially if there is resentment, dudgeon etc. in the family. That’s why it’s necessary. This is wrong.

Now everyone makes their own interpretations. Those interpretations are invalid in Islām. There is no resentment. Even if he’s your Muslim brother not your relative, there must be no resentment towards him. You make salām. No need to spend time together. If you give salām, it’s good. But there are some people who resent completely. You give salām to them, but they don’t return the salām. We witnessed this. We went to a place. It was a madrasah, a school on the Russian side. We gave salām but he didn’t return it. I wonder if he heard my salām. I wonder if this man heard me. Then, we realized that he is a Salafī. If the Salafī makes salām to us, we return it. If a Shia makes salām to us, we return it. Whomever it is, it is farḍ to return the salām. Giving salām is sunnah, returning it is farḍ.

That’s why, these things are important. On the occasion of ‘Īd, we must to forget the resentment and dudgeon. If you can’t – even if you don’t have much conversation, give salām. That’s it. Resentment is not good for you. It’s not good both physically and spiritually. Because if two people are upset with each other and sit in a place, there wouldn’t be a good atmosphere. Bad energy, they say. They are upset here. They are sitting on the other side. They look badly at each other. The whole situation and atmosphere become bad.

Therefore, because Allāh ‘Azza wa-Jalla created us, He ﷻ teaches us the most beautiful things through our Holy ‎Prophet ﷺ. If we do them, we will be comfortable. We gave just one example; there are many more. Therefore, on this occasion of ‘Īd, in shā’a Llāh, let resentment go. And let goodness come in its place. Because maintaining ties of kinship is important, also in terms of rizq. The rizq of a person who does not maintain ties of kinship decreases. It is a cause of poverty.

Therefore, on this occasion of ‘Īd, in shā’a Llāh, those in resentment reconcile with each other. At least, give salām. Send a message if you can’t make a phone call or you can’t meet them. That’s also possible, in shā’a Llāh. May Allāh ‘Azza wa-Jalla make us able to walk on the beautiful way shown by Him ﷻ. May He ﷻ allow us, in shā’a Llāh. Everything is by His ﷻ permission. May Allāh ﷻ be pleased. Wa min Allah at-Tawfiq.

Al-Fatiha.

• Mawlana Sheikh Muhammad Adil ar-Rabbaniق

31 March 2025/ 2 Shawwal 1446

Lefke, Cyprus

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